Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13
No human being is perfect. No relationship is perfect. No one’s life is perfect.
That said, when we live in such an imperfect world in our imperfect human bodies, we’re all going to make mistakes. ALL of us. But what comes next is what can make it or break it. We can either hold grudges and hate our spouse (or someone else) for a mistake they made. Or we can forgive them.
Ha! Easier said than done! Right?! That is where God’s grace comes in! Without God’s great love and mercy we won’t be able to do anything! I absolutely love the parable in Matthew 18:21-35 about the unmerciful servant:
21 Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?”
22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.
23 “Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants.
24 When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents.
25 And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made.
26 So the servant fell on his knees, imploring him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’
27 And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt.
28 But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, ‘Pay what you owe.’
29 So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’
30 He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt.
31 When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their master all that had taken place. 32 Then his master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me.
33 And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’
34 And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers, until he should pay all his debt.
35 So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.”
If God, an absolute PERFECT being forgives us for all our evil sins, then how much more should we lowly humans forgive people for their sins. If we can’t forgive, God doesn’t forgive us our sins. It’s as simple as that. Hey, no one said being righteous is easy. Yet, if you think about it, harboring anger is MUCH harder. It destroys you, bit by bit.
So don’t let your relationship suffer because you want to keep holding anger and unforgiveness bottled up inside you. Ask God to help you let it go once and for all. And never bring it up ever again. You’re not perfect either, so why should you be angry when you make mistakes too? Forgive and move on, and your marriage will be much better off!
P.S. This song by Natalie Grant really touched my heart when I first heard. Also, it contributes to the inspiration for this post:
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