Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13.
We all have those annoying arguments and disagreements. Unfortunately, life will throw those tests at us, so we have to have a plan to deal with them. First things first, an angry person can never make rational decisions or say kind words. If kind words come out, they most likely will sound sarcastic and insincere. Best thing to do first is to calm down. We can find a quiet place and give ourselves time to cool off. It’s also a good time to pray and ask God for wisdom in the situation.
Putting ourselves in the other person’s shoes can give us a new perspective on things. Our hearts can soften up when we see things not just our way and think of compromising rather than just getting our own way.
And one of the most important steps, as hard as it may be is asking for forgiveness if we have wronged our spouse. Even if we think we did nothing wrong, asking for forgiveness and trying to fix the situation will score with God, and not the devil. The liar thrives on anger and disputes, but when we reconcile and humble ourselves in front of our spouse, and ultimately before God, He gives us peace and love into our hearts. It truly is an amazing feeling to be forgiven as well as forgive! A husband and wife need to be two good forgivers in order for their love to grow.
Him+Her Weekly Goal
Practice asking forgiveness in your relationship.