Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Ephesians 5:22, 25
Have you noticed the different commands God gives to each spouse? I have wondered so many times, why didn’t God tell wives to love their husbands or husbands to submit to their wives. Wives don’t need to love their husbands? Women in the 21st century need to submit to their husbands when the world says obeying husbands is not necessary for a happy marriage? Then one day I heard a preacher speak, and all these passages started to make so much more sense!
To start off, God knows best how relationships work. All countries have a leader, whether it’s a president, prime minister, king, etc. All companies have a leader, whether it’s the owner, CEO, etc. All schools have a principal or director. You see the pattern. In a family, God elected the husband to bear the responsibility of being a leader. He made men in such a way that they are able to fulfill that responsibility, with God’s help of course. He made women different and with different responsibilities as well. He didn’t make her any less, but different.
He made women loving, caring, and nurturing. Perfect fit to be a good wife and mother. A woman is very loving and good at showing her love to all those around her. She doesn’t need to be told to love her husband. She naturally does it. However, obeying is so much more hard sometimes. Women struggle with this in every part of the earth. Therefore, God saw it necessary to write this command in His book for the wives.
For the husband, He wrote what is sometimes harder for a man to do: to express love. Men give each other a quick handshake, and they’re good to go. Women give each other hugs and kisses. They snuggle their babies and lavish kisses on them (not to say men don’t but the mother more so). They have no problem expressing love because God created them in such a way. God put emphasis for men to love their wives and to show it, just like Jesus proved His love to us during His life on earth, death, and resurrection! God’s recipe for a blessed relationship is right in His book, and we have to work on following His laws and commands to receive His blessings.
Wives, ask your husband what you can do to improve submissiveness. Husbands, ask your wife what you can do to express love more.