Relationships

Compare & Contrast Not

n every thing give thanks. 1 Thessalonians 5:18

I catch myself doing this all the time. We all probably do it. All. The. Time. We are human and it is hard not to, but God absolutely does not want us doing it. Comparing. It robs people of happiness and satisfaction with what God has given us.

“Her husband does this and that.”
“My mom does this like that.”
These phrases you might have though and/or heard before. Maybe not, but it is quite possible. I’ll admit, it is easy to compare and contrast and have the thought “the grass is greener on the other side”. But that is a thought that the Deceiver wants us to think. He wants us to be unhappy with the everyone and everything.

When we compare, we see only a tiny sliver of the whole story. Maybe her husband does give her more flowers, more often than yours. So what?! But her husband doesn’t give her regular back rubs like yours does. When we see the negative in our spouse, in that moment, we neglect to appreciate the positive. Then the rhetorical question is: what does God wants to focus more on, the positive or the negative sides in our spouse?

Him+Her Talk
Make a list of things you love that you love about your spouse and give it to your him/her (or exchange lists if both of you are doing this).
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